Hazing at University

You don't need to take part if it doesn't feel right

Starting university is an exciting time. It's a chance to meet new people, join societies, try new activities and create memories that could last a lifetime.

Alongside all of this, you may come across traditions, challenges or "initiation" events that some students describe as a rite of passage.

It's important to remember one thing:

What is hazing?

Hazing, sometimes referred to as an initiation, is any activity that someone is expected to take part in to join or be accepted by a group.

While some activities may seem harmless on the surface, hazing can involve pressure, embarrassment, excessive drinking, risky behaviour or situations that make people feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

Often, the issue is not just the activity itself but the expectation that you need to participate to be accepted. 

Remember: "No" is a complete sentence

University life can sometimes make it feel like everyone is saying yes to every opportunity. Whether you've just moved into halls, joined a sports club or started meeting people on your course, it can be difficult to go against the crowd.

However, real friendships and communities are built on respect.

If you don't want to take part in a challenge, game or initiation:

• You do not need to explain yourself, you can refuse to take part and leave it at that. 

• You do not need to justify your decision, if you feel uncomfortable then you can refuse to participate. 

• You do not need to worry about being "boring." Being true to your boundaries doesn't make you boring, it makes you self-aware and confident enough to make decisions that are right for you.

• Anyone worth spending time with will respect your boundaries, if you join a group and feel disrespected, you can choose to find another group to participate in. 

• Fitting in shouldn't come at a cost! You don't need to prove you belong in a group through initiation-style activities, by being at the University you already belong. 

There can be a misconception that participating in initiation-style activities is the fastest way to make friends. In reality, meaningful connections are built through shared interests, conversations and experiences over time.

Most students are looking for exactly the same thing as you are: people they can trust, have fun with and feel comfortable around.

You don't need to embarrass yourself, spend more money than you want to or put yourself in an uncomfortable situation to earn that.

If you're worried about speaking up

If saying no feels difficult, you're not alone. Many students worry about missing out or being judged.

You could try:

• Arriving at events with a friend. You can then leave with someone if you don't feel comfortable. 

• Having a simple response prepared, such as "I'm going to give that a miss."

• Suggesting an alternative activity that is more accommodating. 

• Leaving a situation if it starts to feel uncomfortable.

Trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, it's okay to step away.

Looking out for each other

Creating a welcoming community is everyone's responsibility. If you notice someone being pressured into doing something they don't want to do, check in with them.

A simple "Are you okay?" or "You don't have to do that if you don't want to" can make a huge difference.

The best student communities are inclusive, supportive and welcoming to everyone, regardless of whether they drink alcohol, enjoy nights out or want to take part in every activity.

Support is available

If you've experienced hazing, felt pressured into participating in something, or are worried about a situation involving other students, support is available.

You can speak to:

• The Leeds University Union Help & Support services
• University wellbeing and support services
• Your Residence Life team

Asking for support is never overreacting. Your safety, wellbeing and sense of belonging matter.